Let me tell you my story.
Few years back, I burnt-out. I was a hot mess. I felt hollow inside and exhausted beyond words. You know, the kind of tiredness that's deep, heavy and lonely.
My burnout was an accumulation of many things. I saw the signs but chose to ignore it. I partied and kept myself busy. As an aid worker, it felt good to numb myself against a reality filled with paperwork, meetings, broken relationships and human tragedy. Aid work was about helping people but I mostly felt helpless and hopeless. But to walk away meant I was not cut out for this line of work. So I stuck around.
Then came the final straw that broke the camel's back and I had to finally force myself into recovery.
To everyone at some point. It can happen again and again even if we are careful.
Burning out is part of being alive and reminds us of our limits.
My recovery took time, learning, reflecting and lots of trials and errors. I had to relearn what it truly means to take care of myself. Gosh, it wasn’t easy because for too long, burnout had consumed my life.
The biggest lesson I learned during recovery is that instead of focusing on big ideals/goals, it was far better to make small, incremental and consistent actions to create the change I want to see (seriously, that was a delightful revelation!)
We call this minimum viable action or what I affectionately call ‘baby steps’. When I take small actions, burnout seems less scary and more manageable. That's not saying I’m not ever going to burnout. I still do once in a while but I no longer let it bully me into submission, tiredness and perpetual cycle of despair.
I know exactly what those triggers are now and what I should do when they come around.
And so can you. The point is to learn from your experience and create consistent actions you can take so the next time you're on the burning edges again, you can act with more confidence and impact before it completely sucks you in.
This is how we recover.
This Is Also Where I Come In.
When I was recovering from my burnout, what I found missing was the human connection.
(hello.. anyone out there burning out like me?)
Around me, I see so many folks with burnout symptoms but very few wanted to talk about it. It was as though burnout was something that should to de handled privately - all on your own.
‘Hush, don’t talk about your burnout lest they think you’re weak and can’t get it together.’
I’m on a mission to change that narrative. You don’t have to figure it out alone. You deserved to be heard, encouraged and supported.
And that’s exactly what I’m going to do.
My expertise is helping people recover from burnout in a way that really works for them. And what’s different about how I do it?
I'm different because I have been there in your shoes. I’ve been broken by burnout and I know how hard and yucky the days can be.
I’m different because I don’t just cut and paste a one-template-type remedy for you. Instead I’ll help you craft a lasting solution that actually works for you.
Hello - I’m Haida!
Your Burnout Recovery Coach, Ayurvedic Practitioner (in-training) and lover of tea + ghee. For the past 10+ years, I’ve worked for the UN and international organisations. I’ve burned out multiple times, made mistakes and learned so much. Which is why I created A Life Reworked as a way of sharing that story and above all, provide a space for you to share your story too. Yep, so you can reworked your life around!
I grew up in the tiny island of Singapore, studied theatre and have a thing for Greek tragedies.
Home is a relative concept for me. I’ve been blessed to have lived and worked in Australia, Sierra Leone, China, Sudan, Turkey and Syria to mention a few. I'm still on the road.
I once played a 'village-girl-turned-ghost' on TV. I had no lines. I only had to cry. Halfway through the 12-hour shoot, I peeled onions to keep crying.
I’m an ambivert - a classic extrovert who also enjoys a lot of time on my own.
My coaching journey started in northeast Syria and nurtured in Turkey. A Life Reworked was born across the Southern Carpathian mountains in Romania, polished while in Colombia and launched on the road in the USA.